The pressure of perfection

 

Do anti-aging creams efficiently reduce fine lines and wrinkles? Do fairness creams really lighten the skin tone?! These seem to be the questions googled by many.

Adding on further, can you imagine YouTube videos about ‘How to get dimples’ crossing 7-8 million views! Shocking yet true! Scrolling through your Instagram feed to see pictures of individuals having perfect hair and makeup and negatively comparing yourself with them instead of embracing your differences is where the problem arises.

Haven’t we so specifically set the definition of beauty in our minds that so many characteristics that are natural or hereditary are not desired by individuals now!

When people describe about how they just knew that they wanted to spend their lives forever with someone the moment they saw them, I wonder how they call it love? Love is supposed to be built overtime after getting to know their heart, isn’t it? But many movies which create an impact on a large number of audiences depict scenarios of falling in ‘love at first sight’ with an almost PERFECT human filling our minds with inappropriate thoughts. On the other hand, instead of being informative, advertisements make us fear our own natural characteristics. They make these things sound like an issue to sell their product.

Celebrities opting for cosmetic surgery procedures? We sometimes find these things funny but we never think about what made them go for this decision to alter their natural appearance. It’s us…We who have set beauty standards so high, specifically to be fair, perfect and everything just aligned that in this competent world, they feel the pressure of perfection.

If not too many things, Engineering at least made me believe in science. But it’s usage to develop such beauty treatments and products is quite amusing and the number of people opting for such procedures is even more shocking. Whom can you impress with that beauty which can only please the sight if the world went blind? It’s high time we look beyond our flaws and embrace what we are. Not trying to be someone else’s definition of beauty but setting your own definition of beauty which NEEDS to be filled with one’s natural attributes and imperfections!

 

A lot can happen in a year.

Didn’t even this year end with us all being so exhausted ? This year, I realized that there are people who would miss you every second, but won’t say a word. I realized that there are people, unworthy of your love, but still love might make you do anything for them. I came to know that people whom we hate might actually turn out to be real nice. I learnt that intuitions can go wrong and sometimes guesses could be right! But most importantly, I just learnt that I  won’t ever be ready for whatever life throws at me. I may go blank or surprised or scared; but I  surely won’t have the right words at the right moment. But now I know I don’t always need to have the right answer.

Shutting doors, Ending chapters, Closing cycles – whatever names we give it, what matters is to let go of the past. This year, I got something I would admire forever and also, lost something for which I would be sad for a long time. But I have seen that life is all about these ups and downs. And If this year wasn’t in your favor , You are yet  to explore more people existing in this amazing world.
So, this coming year you have 12 chapters and 365 chances- another shot to get it right this time. I have gained so much this year and so here are 12 quick tips for a good and a happy life:

• “When asked if my cup is half-full or half-empty, my only response is that I’m thankful I have a cup.” Count your blessings, not your troubles. Be thankful.

• Don’t say yes when you mean no. Don’t even say a maybe. ‘NO’ is an acceptable answer.

• Money will buy a great dog but only kindness will make him wag his tail. So, be a nice human.

• “You carry so much love in your heart, give some to yourself.”    -r.z

• Sometimes, the worst place you can be in is your own head. Don’t overthink. Just let go.

• It is okay to be angry but it is never okay to be cruel.

• Learn to forgive and also to apologize when wrong.

• Don’t get side tracked by the opinions of others. Don’t take anything personal from someone you are not personal with.

• DOn’t quIT.

• You might end up breaking someone’s heart or someone else would break yours! But if you are ever heartbroken, just remember that there was a time when you had lived without that person and you were still happy. A habit is not a need.

• Nobody is going to stand up at your funeral and say “she had a really expensive car and great house!” Don’t make life about stuff!

• Deal with your problems before they deal with your happiness.

This new year would mean nothing if you are still in love with your comfort zone.  Do things that challenge you. Let this year be a selfish one. Protect your heart and have a good life

Wishing you and your family a merry everything and a happy always! This coming year save more money, drink more water, get organized and most importantly protect yourself. 

P.S: This is my first blog post. Looking forward for your feedback and I do apologize for any mistakes.